Why marry?

I was curious about why people should even marry. It was not due to me necessarily supporting or opposing marriage, just curiosity. So I looked in the Bible and it is pretty clear about why you should marry,

“But for fear of fornication, let every man have his own wife: and let every woman have her own husband.”

–          1 Corinthians 7:2

“But if they do not contain themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to be burnt.”

–          1 Corinthians 7:9

In these two passages, the Apostle Paul suggests marriage only to those who cannot contain their passions. He states that his life path, that of celibacy, is preferable to that of marriage. The reason being, I presume, that the celibate is called to a life focused upon God where the married person is called to a life focused upon the flesh; their own, that of their spouse, and the creation of a new generation. This is not to say choosing the path of marriage is bad, of course, how else would we “go forth and multiply” without sinning? That a married man is generally not accepted as a (Catholic) Priest is also for this reason; he cannot as intensely focus upon God if he is married.

So then marriage is only recommended for the person who has an intense want to have sex. There are no other clearly stated reasons. But for those who yearn for sex, there is an expectation to rear a new generation. To remain without sexual sin one must also remain abstinent in marriage, which means in no way intentionally preventing the creation of new life. This means no use of artificial contraception or certain acts. For the man or woman unconcerned about living in perpetual sin, they may do as they wish. However, for those who actually believe, it is necessary to abstain from sin.

Men and women are left with two well defined choices. One is a life of perpetual celibacy, free from marriage, fornication, and masturbation, while focusing entirely upon service to God; or a life of marriage with sex, children, and love, while focusing upon the flesh and God. Most people would obviously choose the life of marriage. How many would opt to forgo a husband or wife, children, and sex? Those who would are the select few and they have a particular role to play in this life, one which is just as, if not more, important than those who opted to marry.

If you want to be scriptural, when someone says “sex is not a legitimate reason to marry”, you can tell them it is the only reason we are to marry. Should you not want sex, then you should not marry. It is better to dedicate your life to another vocation which better fits you. Admitting, “Yes, I must marry because I must have sex” is not wrong, it is just honest. If you do not feel that way, then why are you marrying? Why would you marry a person you do not have an intense want to have sex with? Remember that within marriage your body is now owned by your husband or wife as you own theirs and sex is never to be rejected except upon mutual consent to dedicate time towards prayer.

“The wife hath not power of her own body: but the husband. And in like manner the husband also hath not power of his own body: but the wife. Defraud not one another, except, perhaps, by consent, for a time, that you may give yourselves to prayer: and return together again, lest Satan tempt you for your incontinency.”

–          1 Corinthians 7:4, 5

15 thoughts on “Why marry?

  1. So you are “Imperator”.

    Good luck with your new blog. I was alerted to it through Facebook.

    Glad you liked my woman bishops post. I liked what The Anti-Gnostic and The Last Psychiatrist said about women prelates in the Anglican/Episcopalian church. How women and gays drive out normal men. I posted a remark to the former blog about the obvious affirmative action in the latest NASA intake, but he seems to have expunged it.

    As Morticia wrote before she nixed her blog, there is a reason the Catholic Church has a male hierarchy.

    I don’t like your new blog title so it is in my blogroll as Philosophia Perennis et Ars.

  2. “That a married man is generally not accepted as a Priest is also for this reason; he cannot as intensely focus upon God if he is married.”

    I was sent over here, from another blogger, who recommended you. Congrats on starting your blog. However, this once sentence needs clarification, and a bit of amplification. You are most likely aware that priests in the historic Anglican church (not speaking now of the wacko Episcopals, and the quite bizarre C of E at present, but the ‘Trads.’ worldwide) can- and often, did- marry.

    Or that the other 4/5ths of Christendom (namely, the Orthodox Church) does allow for married priests, mandating that only Bishops must be celibate. That St. Peter (the first pope, supposedly) also had a mother-in-law, clearly shows that what is ‘Tradition’ for Rome, is NOT necessarily ‘tradition’ for much of the rest of the Faithful.

    Just clarification. There is far more catholicity contained outside of Rome’s narrow enclave, than within it. – Fr. John+
    Married Priest of God most High

  3. Julian O’Dea,

    Well word certainly travels fast, now doesn’t it?

    If my church were to ever have female or gay bishops, I would leave. There would be no discussing the matter. Thankfully, the Catholic Church has more sense than that although it does not look like the new Pope is all that great.

  4. Fr. John+,

    I should have been clearer on that subject. Married Priests are standard for the other Christian denominations and was part of the justification behind the Protestant revolt. Although, speaking on an entirely personal level, I would support the rule of celibate Priests, even if I did not belong to the Catholic Church.

    Nevertheless, I am honored to have a Priest, of any denomination, read and comment on my blog. To which denomination do you belong? And, if it is not meant to be private, who sent you to my blog?

  5. Joe Rebel,

    For some reason your comments were in my spam folder. Anyway, I don’t mind about the introduction. And I hope everything is going okay for you.

  6. How odd. I never troll around other blogs and leave blatantly crazy off-key comments lol.

    But yes, everything is pretty good on my side of the pond.

  7. Lena,

    If you actually figured it out then you were ahead of the others. They only knew because I said it in a comment at Casey’s blog.

  8. I have to admit, I didn’t recognize you at first, when I first started seeing ‘Imperator’, but then indeed saw your post over there at Casey’s.

  9. I didn’t recognise you either at first, but figured you must be someone who has already been around. It was your books tab that gave it away or I’d probably not have figured it out.

  10. A question I’ve been asking lately: is Christian/Biblical marriage legal in the modern USA?

    [Imperator: No, because the husband is no longer the ultimate authority in his marriage, the state is.]

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