70 years of wedded bliss

(h/t Lena S.)

As unto the bow the cord is,
So unto the man is woman;
Though she bonds him she obeys him,
Though she draws him, yet she follows,
Useless each without the other!”

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

In our modern times it is easy to get swept away in all the cynicism and gloom of the ever growing insanity of life. For that reason it is good to remind ourselves of positive stories and, more importantly, that such positive stories are still possible. While the Supreme Court yesterday paved the way for the legalization of gay marriage here in the US, there is a good story coming out of Canada. It is about a couple, Doug and Helen Hatton, who celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary yesterday, June 26th, at a time when many cannot last even 7.

One thing I noticed about them was their playfulness. These two enjoyed teasing each other a bit. My favorite line from the article is when Doug says (highlighted),

Helen lives at Rapelje Lodge on Plymouth Rd. and Doug travels from his Denistoun St. apartment twice a day every day to see his wife.

“I do it just to see her, to be with her for a bit,” he says modestly of the dedicated trek.

“Where else would I go? Must mean I kind of like you.”

This is something too many people do not understand, the importance of simple joking and teasing. My grandparents were great with that and their marriage lasted just a few months short of fifty years when my grandmother passed. It is strange but with the elderly couples you can more clearly see the dynamics of a successful marriage. When two people can sit silently together yet know the other’s heart and mind, that is when you have truly become one.

Instead of teasing, I see and read about guys always complimenting and essentially appeasing the woman. An occasional compliment is constructive, constantly doing so is not. The men who do this are the same ones that place her as their center. It is not meant to be this way. Men are not the relation beings, women are. Women exist in relation to men; their fathers then their husbands. Those women who lack such relation are adrift in a chaotic existence. Men are, instead, the rock upon which women find refuge from their emotional whirlwind.

I believe those with the long, healthy, happy marriages are the people who best understand this and apply it to their lives. It is not misogynistic to say this about women because that would imply it is a bad thing for women to be this way. But it is not a bad thing. Eve was made that way before the fall, meaning it is an inherently good aspect of female nature. A man should neither cater to a woman’s erratic emotions nor allow himself to be controlled by them. He is meant to lift her above them, not be dragged down with her. Happiness for both comes from stabilizing the woman by first strengthening yourself.

How does a man strengthen himself? He places God as his center. It is possible to be a good man without believing in God, but you are not whole and your marriage will never be whole. I must note that he does not place the God of liberal, effeminate Christianity as his center, but rather the biblical God that destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah, struck down Uzzah, punished the Egyptians, saved an adulteress from a mob, healed the sick, and preached turning the other cheek.

The more people realize what makes a marriage such as the one Doug and Helen Hatton have, the more likely it is they may have a similar marriage. Although the chances of finding a respectable wife, or husband, today is rather slim it is still possible. At the end of the day, for those that are married, it all comes down to this, really,

They still hold hands.

Still look into each other’s eyes.

And still whisper “I love you.”

Welcome to Nude York City

(h/t BwanaSimba)

In the name of “gender equality” the New York Police Department has officially declared that they will no longer arrest a woman for simply being topless. This is, of course, declared a victory for “freedom” and “equality” by the Liberals. The arguments goes, if a man can walk around shirtless without that being a crime than a woman, too, should be able to walk around without a top. Bare chests are obviously the same for men and women, no differences there.

The men supporting this are thinking this will mean they get to see hot women walking around with their breasts free. Guess again. If you believe anyone except ugly femcunts are going to be showing off, you are wrongly mistaken. Trust me, unless you have really low standards, you are going to be repulsed not aroused. I doubt those men really thought it through.

Nevertheless, the argument is that it is discriminatory to tell women they cannot go topless yet allow men to. They are correct, it is discrimination. But discrimination is often a good thing. Women and men do not have the same bodies. Breasts are not non-sexual parts of the female body; ask any straight man. Heck, even ask women. Why else would so many choose to wear low-cut shirts which show cleavage except to display their bodies for male attention? Admittedly most Americans exaggerate the importance of breasts beyond reasonable limits, but that does not mean having women walking around with them exposed is the right answer.

The most important problem with this law change is not that women are now allowed to show their breasts in public. That is an issue, but not the most important. Rather it is the justification for allowing women to expose themselves. We are being sexist if we tell women, “Your chest has an innate sexual nature that men’s do not.” For anyone paying attention it should be obvious that this is part of a larger campaign to force society into believing the (false) notion that men and women are the same. The goal is to deconstruct nature itself, but nature does not allow itself to be deconstructed. Work against nature and you will lose. There is no ‘might lose’ or ‘could lose’, you will lose.

We have become a savage society, having decayed from the highest point of civilization ever achieved by man to the lowest point in only 150 or so years. Unfortunately we are still descending. Society is already starting to fall apart with out-of-wedlock births at record highs, same with divorces, those who never marry, importation of third world immigrants, abortions, selfishness, atheism, debt, and overall degeneracy. Last night I was listening to the Orthodox Christian Network and the speaker noted how the 20th and 21st centuries are a period wherein the great lie, the one first spoken by the serpent in the Garden of Eden, has achieved power as never before. The idea that man can become like God through the idolization of the self is the lie. Moral relativism is what it is better known as today, that you make your own morality, your own truth, and are your own master.

Feminism is the belief that we can recreate the sexes and sex relations along any lines we want. They believe the Word of God is evil and that (wo)man knows more than some book of desert fairytales. Yet it was that book of desert fairytales that allowed for Europeans to create true civilization, one that only began to decay when it abandoned that book. Better we believe ourselves God than submit to truth.

Rosarium

When the physical and the spiritual meet, beauty is created.

Perhaps the deepest meditative and reflective prayer is the Holy Rosary. It consists of several specific prayers, five decades, and four mysteries. The mysteries are Joyful (Monday, Saturday), Light (Thursday), Sorrowful (Tuesday, Friday), and Glorious (Wednesday, Sunday). These are mysteries of the faith which one reflects upon whilst praying. Each mystery is broken down into five decades which are about specific events and their rich symbolism. During each decade you recite Our Father, Hail Mary ten times, Glory Be, and the Fatima Prayer. This is repeated for each of the five decades. Altogether it takes roughly twenty minutes to recite.

The day of this post is Sunday, so it will be a time for contemplating the Glorious Mystery. We are to remember the Resurrection of Jesus Christ, his Ascension into Heaven, the descent of the Holy Ghost, the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary into Heaven, and her Coronation as Queen of Heaven and Earth. Those are all truly beautiful things to recall and meditate upon. It is there to remind us of the triumph of Christ and his blessed virgin mother, Mary, over the forces of evil. We are to understand that through accepting Christ, we share in his victory.

At times it is necessary for man to detach himself not only from the past and future but even from the present. To let oneself go, drifting away into the sea of holy mystery. Time ceases to be as we reach upwards toward the divine. At first we yearn for the transcendent, next we begin to love and feel loved by Him, then we begin to know of Him, we become detached from this world, and then unite with God, whose unfathomable greatness bewilders us, and finally we come out hopefully with greater selflessness and forget our former bad ways.

Prayer is a fundamental aspect of nurturing your spiritual life. I admit to slacking off from time to time and always notice a decline in my emotional and psychological state. What prayer provides us with is temporary death through departure from this physical world. Just as our physical bodies need sleep, our spiritual bodies need prayer.  There are no religions that do not treat prayer as absolutely necessary for a healthy spiritual and even physical life. A mistake people often make is in considering different forms of prayer to be less effective.

The East focuses upon meditation while the West is more of a recitation and reflection based prayer system. However, there is a third way. In Ancient Paganism action was often considered a form of what we would call prayer. It was not about silent meditation or reflection, but about the act. An action held deep symbolism and spoke a non-verbal language which connected the actor to the eternal. A similar idea still exists in Sufism, which is an esoteric sect of Islam, called Sema whereby those practicing dhikr use a particular form of dance as worship and remembrance. The actors are called dervishes who lose themselves into dancing to music by spinning in repetitive circles meant to imitate the rotation of the planets (themselves) around the sun (God / Allah).

“In the symbolism of the Sema ritual, the semazen’s camel’s hair hat (sikke) represents the tombstone of the ego; his wide, white skirt (tennure) represents the ego’s shroud. By removing his black cloak (hırka), he is spiritually reborn to the truth. At the beginning of the Sema, by holding his arms crosswise, the semazen appears to represent the number one, thus testifying to God’s unity. While whirling, his arms are open: his right arm is directed to the sky, ready to receive God’s beneficence; his left hand, upon which his eyes are fastened, is turned toward the earth. The semazen conveys God’s spiritual gift to those who are witnessing the Sema. Revolving from right to left around the heart, the semazen embraces all humanity with love. The human being has been created with love in order to love. Mevlâna Jalâluddîn Rumi says, “All loves are a bridge to Divine love. Yet, those who have not had a taste of it do not know!”

I would imagine that all three types of prayer, when employed in one’s life, would create a special spiritual depth. In our age of shallow materialism, to turn toward that which brings us closer to the divine light can only help us. We are foolish, though, to assume the path to God is found simply in prayer, dogma, or church. The way is narrow, but can be found everywhere.  Soren Kierkegaard said,

“Just as in earthly life lovers long for the moment when they are able to breathe forth their love for each other, to let their souls blend in a soft whisper, so the mystic longs for the moment when in prayer he can, as it were, creep into God.”

Julius Evola wrote in ‘The Metaphysics of Sex’, that sex should not be about just procreation, love, or physical sensation, but about reaching for the divine. If this is true, which I believe it is, then we should take a different look at our world. All around us are pathways to the divine. We can see it, act in a way which brings us closer towards it, contemplate it, and lose ourselves in it through meditation.

Recommended Reading:

The Rosary: A Beautiful Prayer

The Bird Parliament

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Desperationem vici

Beauty is the shining through of the divine light into this world.

I have spent much of my life stuck between cynicism and anger. At some point I simply said enough and have set about reordering my life. We have only a short time on this earth and we can choose to spend it in despair or we can enjoy it. The choice is our own. I thank God that something finally changed in me which will allow for more enjoyment and less despair. Negativity is unhealthy and does not benefit us one bit. Why hold onto that which only hurts us?

Priest Pierre Teilhard de Chardin once wisely said, “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” Think about that for a moment. Is it not true? Found amongst the most simple of ideas lies the greatest profundity. This is our one and only chance to have a human experience. Why waste it? God has given us so much to appreciate and the ability to appreciate it. He who ignores this gift is missing out.

Let your life be a celebration of this precious gift. Show gratitude to your creator through being merry. Share the blessings of this life with all through charity. Do not have grudges; forgive all who wrong you for your own sake. Remember what Emperor Marcus Aurelius said,

“Begin the morning by saying to thyself, I shall meet with the busybody, the ungrateful, arrogant, deceitful, envious, unsocial. All these things happen to them by reason of their ignorance of what is good and evil. But I who have seen the nature of the good that it is beautiful, and of the bad that it is ugly, and the nature of him who does wrong, that it is akin to me; not [only] of the same blood or seed, but that it participates in [the same] intelligence and [the same] portion of the divinity, I can neither be injured by any of them, for no one can fix on me what is ugly, nor can I be angry with my kinsman, nor hate him. For we are made for co-operation, like feet, like hands, like eyelids, like the rows of the upper and lower teeth. To act against one another, then, is contrary to nature; and it is acting against one another to be vexed and to turn away.” – ‘Meditations’, Book II, Section 1.

No one can hurt you but yourself. All hurt is derived from within, not the words or actions of another. Epictetus said, “If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone.” Therefore, why do we seek to hurt ourselves? Why makes ourselves unhappy? It is within our independent will to decide how we feel and what we think. In poverty there can be happiness and in wealth there can be despair.

We must learn to push aside all that seeks to darken our lives. At the same time, we must build up that which adds value to life. Is it love, children, marriage, travel, education, faith, or self-discipline which you seek? Then pursue it. Do not be afraid to take stops on your journey for sightseeing either. Learn to rejoice in God’s gifts. And do H. L. Mencken’s ghost a favor, “If, after I depart this vale, you ever remember me and have thought to please my ghost, forgive some sinner and wink your eye at some homely girl.”

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