Why marry?

I was curious about why people should even marry. It was not due to me necessarily supporting or opposing marriage, just curiosity. So I looked in the Bible and it is pretty clear about why you should marry,

“But for fear of fornication, let every man have his own wife: and let every woman have her own husband.”

–          1 Corinthians 7:2

“But if they do not contain themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to be burnt.”

–          1 Corinthians 7:9

In these two passages, the Apostle Paul suggests marriage only to those who cannot contain their passions. He states that his life path, that of celibacy, is preferable to that of marriage. The reason being, I presume, that the celibate is called to a life focused upon God where the married person is called to a life focused upon the flesh; their own, that of their spouse, and the creation of a new generation. This is not to say choosing the path of marriage is bad, of course, how else would we “go forth and multiply” without sinning? That a married man is generally not accepted as a (Catholic) Priest is also for this reason; he cannot as intensely focus upon God if he is married.

So then marriage is only recommended for the person who has an intense want to have sex. There are no other clearly stated reasons. But for those who yearn for sex, there is an expectation to rear a new generation. To remain without sexual sin one must also remain abstinent in marriage, which means in no way intentionally preventing the creation of new life. This means no use of artificial contraception or certain acts. For the man or woman unconcerned about living in perpetual sin, they may do as they wish. However, for those who actually believe, it is necessary to abstain from sin.

Men and women are left with two well defined choices. One is a life of perpetual celibacy, free from marriage, fornication, and masturbation, while focusing entirely upon service to God; or a life of marriage with sex, children, and love, while focusing upon the flesh and God. Most people would obviously choose the life of marriage. How many would opt to forgo a husband or wife, children, and sex? Those who would are the select few and they have a particular role to play in this life, one which is just as, if not more, important than those who opted to marry.

If you want to be scriptural, when someone says “sex is not a legitimate reason to marry”, you can tell them it is the only reason we are to marry. Should you not want sex, then you should not marry. It is better to dedicate your life to another vocation which better fits you. Admitting, “Yes, I must marry because I must have sex” is not wrong, it is just honest. If you do not feel that way, then why are you marrying? Why would you marry a person you do not have an intense want to have sex with? Remember that within marriage your body is now owned by your husband or wife as you own theirs and sex is never to be rejected except upon mutual consent to dedicate time towards prayer.

“The wife hath not power of her own body: but the husband. And in like manner the husband also hath not power of his own body: but the wife. Defraud not one another, except, perhaps, by consent, for a time, that you may give yourselves to prayer: and return together again, lest Satan tempt you for your incontinency.”

–          1 Corinthians 7:4, 5

Quotations for May 30th

Samuel Taylor Coleridge

I have seen great intolerance shown in support of tolerance.

A man’s desire is for the woman, but the woman’s desire is rarely other than for the desire of the man.

The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions – the little, soon forgotten charities of a kiss or a smile, a kind look or heartfelt compliment.

Every reform, however necessary, will by weak minds be carried to an excess, that itself will need reforming.

William Wordsworth

Suffering is permanent, obscure and dark, And shares the nature of infinity.

The flower that smells the sweetest is shy and lowly.

Rapine, avarice, expense, This is idolatry; and these we adore; Plain living and high thinking are no more.

Sir Walter Scott

O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive!

All men who have turned out worth anything have had the chief hand in their own education.

To the timid and hesitating everything is impossible because it seems so.

Vacant heart, and hand, and eye,
Easy live and quiet die.

My dear, be a good man — be virtuous — be religious — be a good man. Nothing else will give you any comfort when you come to lie here. …God bless you all.

Edmund Burke

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.

Religion is essentially the art and the theory of the remaking of man. Man is not a finished creation.

What ever disunites man from God, also disunites man from man.

No passion so effectually robs the mind of all its powers of acting and reasoning as fear.

The effect of liberty to individuals is that they may do what they please: we ought to see what it will please them to do, before we risk congratulations.

Robert Frost

A mother takes twenty years to make a man of her boy, and another woman makes a fool of him in twenty minutes.

Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep.

Don’t ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.

It’s a funny thing that when a man hasn’t anything on earth to worry about, he goes off and gets married.

I hold it to be the inalienable right of anybody to go to hell in his own way.

Nathaniel Hawthorne

What other dungeon is so dark as one’s own heart! What jailer so inexorable as one’s self!

A woman’s chastity consists, like an onion, of a series of coats.

We sometimes congratulate ourselves at the moment of waking from a troubled dream; it may be so the moment after death.

Our most intimate friend is not he to whom we show the worst, but the best of our nature.

No man for any considerable period can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true.

Evelyn Waugh

It is a curious thing… that every creed promises a paradise which will be absolutely uninhabitable for anyone of civilized taste.

The human mind is inspired enough when it comes to inventing horrors; it is when it tries to invent a Heaven that it shows itself cloddish.

Pray always for all the learned, the oblique, the delicate. Let them not be quite forgotten at the throne of God when the simple come into their kingdom.

Quotations by 20th century reactionaries

Ezra Pound

Real education must ultimately be limited to men who insist on knowing, the rest is mere sheep-herding.

A slave is one who waits for someone to come and free him.

I guess the definition of a lunatic is a man surrounded by them.

Genius… is the capacity to see ten things where the ordinary man sees one.

If the individual, or heretic, gets hold of some essential truth, or sees some error in the system being practiced, he commits so many marginal errors himself that he is worn out before he can establish his point.

H. L. Mencken

The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace alarmed (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing it with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary.

Democracy is the theory that the common people know what they want, and deserve to get it good and hard.

Temptation is a woman’s weapon and man’s excuse.

A church is a place in which gentlemen who have never been to heaven brag about it to persons who will never get there.

To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia – to mistake an ordinary young woman for a goddess.

Puritanism. The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy.

Giving every man a vote has no more made men wise and free than Christianity has made them good.

Corneliu Zelea Codreanu

We will kill in ourselves a world in order to build another, a higher one reaching to the heavens.

The law of silence: Speak little. Say only what you must. Speak only when necessary. Your oratory should be deeds, not words. You accomplish: let others talk.

The young man who joins a political party is a traitor to his generation and to his race.

The law of honor: Go along only on the paths of honor. Fight, and never be a coward. Leave the path of infamy to others. Better to fall in an honorable fight than win by infamy.

When we speak of the Rumanian nation, we refer not only to the Rumanians currently living on the same territory, with the same past and same future, the same habits, the same language, the same interests. When we speak of the Rumanian nation we refer to all Rumanians, dead or alive, who have lived on this land of ours from the beginnings of history and will live on it also in the future.

T. S. Eliot

Half of the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm. But the harm does not interest them.

I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope, For hope would be hope for the wrong thing.

This is the way the world ends, not with a bang, but a whimper.

Television is a medium of entertainment which permits millions of people to listen to the same joke at the same time, and yet remain lonesome.

If you desire to drain to the dregs the fullest cup of scorn and hatred that a fellow human being can pour out for you, let a young mother hear you call dear baby ‘it.’

Oswald Spengler

Socialism is nothing but the capitalism of the lower classes.

For the Age has itself become vulgar, and most people have no idea to what extent they are themselves tainted. The bad manners of all parliaments, the general tendency to connive at a rather shady business transaction if it promises to bring in money without work, jazz and Negro dances as the spiritual outlet in all circles of society, women painted like prostitutes, the efforts of writers to win popularity by ridiculing in their novels and plays the correctness of well-bred people, and the bad taste shown even by the nobility and old princely families in throwing off every kind of social restraint and time-honoured custom: all of these go to prove that it is now the vulgar mob that gives the tone.

To-day we live so cowed under the bombardment of this intellectual artillery that hardly anyone can attain to the inward detachment that is required for a clear view of the monstrous drama.